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Humility and Unconditional Love

Humility is a surprisingly deep and esoteric topic, a lot more esoteric than I think it usually is taken at face value. The way we are energetically is greatly informed by our thoughts, our paradigm, the way we relate to life, and by our karma, which is our actions and the way those actions inform our experiences.

What is it to love oneself? If you love yourself because of some attribute, some quality, is that love? When we love anything or anyone because of attributes or qualities, is that love? Certainly it is conditional, and we are loving because of some sort of benefit. But there is an entirely different orientation, which is to say that that is, in fact, a form of mutual exploitation.

I love so-and-so because I get this from them. I want them to love me, and so I try to get big biceps or get a good job. I do that because I want them to love me, and we are entering into a field of mutual exploitation. Our society lives in the field of mutual exploitation. This is the status quo. This is what is expected. This is respectable, and this is what we live in. That is not love.

There is a dimension of form in it. There is collaboration. The bee comes for the pollen, and the flower gives the pollen, and they mutually benefit each other. But that is collaboration, and that is an expression of complementary intrinsic nature. When we act with the spontaneity of the self on behalf of the totality, allowing complementary spiritual natures, that is love. But when we do it as a means of saying that I am separate, that I need to get something, that I have to fulfill a desire and am not in an action on behalf of the totality, that is exploitation.

If you love yourself for a reason, that is not humility. To evaluate yourself, to apply self-worth based on some particular attribute, is to enter into the marketplace of mutual exploitation. It is to say that I have something to offer that makes me valuable as a means of exchange for something I want. Implicit in this is that I, too, am exploiting the other and allowing myself to be exploited.

In humility, we accept ourselves as we are, entirely. We have to let go of this marketplace of mutual exploitation. I am as I am. I may be meant to be CEO of this company or not. We see in our intrinsic nature the truth of where we belong, and the collaboration and integration into life that are natural and correct. In that, we can let go of our sense of self-importance and just recognize the truth of what we are.

Humility means the direct apprehension of truth. It means accepting the truth and knowing the truth without any level of self-importance, either in the affirmation or the negative. Whether you are great or not, humility is a state in which you know what you are without evaluation and judgment. A rose is not better than jasmine. A mango is not better than passion fruit. A man is not better than a woman. The sky is not better than the sea. One sees things as they are. A child who is just learning is not better than an adult.

And yet humility may recognize the fact that this individual is better suited to be CEO of a company, or that a physicist is the leader in their field in the world at a particular time. Einstein can say, I am the best in the world at this, but he is not doing it from a place of ego. He just does it from a place of truth. Humility has a lot to do with seeing the fact. You can know yourself as you are, but there is no sense of evaluation because you have moved out of that continuum of mutual exploitation.

Meditation and Sincere Action

Humility comes from meditation because, in meditation, we dissolve into the unknown. We let go of self-reflection. When we let go of self-reflection, there is a sense of spontaneous action that is humble, like a child who plays. We may be very good at what we do, but we still have the humility of a child who is simply playing, simply enjoying our experiences. In humility, there is a great deal of sincerity.

If you are an artist, you engage in your art, your creativity, and your mastery because you love what you do. But if an artist is doing it for the results, they lose that je ne sais quoi, that quality of beauty that is utter humility. I am not engaging in self-reflection. I am just acting with spontaneity, with love, with humility.

This comes from meditation because, in meditation, we actually dissolve. It is not just an intellectual epiphany. We are becoming a feeling of freedom. We are becoming a feeling of being completely absorbed without any element of ego.

In humility, you just love doing what you do. You are a duck in a happy pond. You are where you are meant to be. How can we have the freedom inwardly to enjoy our lives on a day-to-day basis with that blessing of humility, like a child, and get rid of all of those layers of sedimentation that make us feel so ensnared in the social aspect?

We have to have a lot of trust that we are enough, that being true to ourselves and doing what we love is the right thing, and that it is enough to sustain us, to realize our heart’s wishes and our heart’s dreams. We may think that is a nice thought, but how can we feel it?

When we meditate and make contact with the light, the light of consciousness, that light is the formlessness, the essence of consciousness. It is the part of us that is beyond form. It is like a beautiful golden statue. If we evaluate that statue based on its form, somebody made this look beautiful in gold, but the gold is valuable. The light is the gold from which we arise. It is the substance of what we are.

By spending time with our essence, we naturally become more humble. It awakens intelligence. It is a great way to get good at math. It is a great way to make people feel at ease because, when you are humble, you are holding space for others to be themselves. People feel that.

If you encounter somebody who lacks humility, there is a gravity that pulls you off your humility center. You begin to wonder whether you need to respond, whether you need to be worthy. You feel them pushing you down and imposing upon you: you are not worthy just because you are a child of God; you are not worthy just because you are as you are.

Is a second grader any less wonderful than a cancer researcher because she does not have a graduate degree? No, of course not. That would be ridiculous. Is the cancer researcher any less wonderful than her because he is not five? That is ridiculous. A rose is a rose, jasmine is jasmine, and a mango and a passion fruit are all unique. Look at us. We are a collage of wildflowers arising from the substratum of formlessness. These recognitions are all involved in humility.

Humility is an absence of ego. It means to walk around without the baggage of self-reflection. It is baggage. It is a burden. Constantly trying to be polite, or lead with whatever is normal or good enough, or keeping checks on whether you are being evaluated by everybody else: do not be yourself. Great artists do this. Innocent children do this.

Selflessness and the Created Self

Each thing is brought into existence unto its own value. Every moment is complete. This is perfect as it is. It experiences itself as it is. Things are as they are. There is no need for the ego. There is no need for self-reflection. There is no need for evaluation.

Evaluation happens because I want so-and-so to like me. On romantic levels, where it is really egregious, I want so-and-so to like me, so I am going to get big biceps because she likes big biceps. All of this is so corrupt. Do we not want people to love us for who we are? Is love not a subjective capacity? If I love somebody because of something, that is just exploitation. But if I love all unconditionally because I am love, that is a whole new field.

That does not mean I am going to hire just anybody for my business because not everybody is qualified, but that has nothing to do with loving them. It does not mean that I am going to get hired to be the top gardener. I do not know enough about gardening.

In yoga, they call the personified self an ahamkara. You have to have the created self. If you do not have any sense of orientation in the universe, that is insanity. You have to have a paradigm. You have to know how to orient in the universe.

But where evaluation and worthiness come in, there is so much confusion. You hear people say, love yourself, love yourself. Why should I love myself? Because I am this good, and this good, and this good, and I have this quality? No. Love yourself unconditionally. That is a different thing.

People are trying to balance the judgment of themselves with their good qualities. To enter into that unconditional state and know yourself as you are is a different thing. Self-love really fuses with the love of the other when one stops evaluating worthiness.

Even the word humility is a little bit tainted with what I think humility does not mean. Humility comes from earth because it means to be low, not high above everybody else. But really, humility means that everybody is what they are.

Know what you are. Be what you are. That should be enough.

Dharma and Standards of Conduct

If you find something you love to do, whatever that is, something that you continually challenge yourself in, that is dharma. Say you are a writer and you just want to get better and better. You read Emerson or Shakespeare, not as a comparison, but as an inspiration for how you can be your true expression of yourself at the highest levels.

Constantly challenging yourself, that autotelic activity, meaning you do it for its own sake, is a way of practicing humility. In dharma, we enter into humility.

Meditation is a way of practicing humility because, in meditation, I become nothing. This is another aspect of humility: to become nothing. Dare I say it, to have no self-worth.

Give up the burden. You do not need self-worth. You are what you are. You are infinitely valuable. You are as valuable as anybody else. Give up the burden of self-worth. This is a very spiritual thing, to know that I have no worth, that I will come and go. My life in this form is finite. These are my experiences. They are sacred because they are my experiences. It does not matter about anybody else.

I can love another. I can help another. I can wish the best for another, help them enter freedom, help them enter humility because of compassion and empathy and love. But I can stand in freedom from all of that trap of selfhood. It is a trap.

Say, I have no self-worth. You can see some of those hairy spiritual people bowing down to the flower, to the tree, to everybody they encounter. Not because they are saying, I am lower. They are just off the spectrum of that evaluation.

It is different to be in absolute humility but recognize that I could be better in this way as part of a sincere, humble effort. Maybe you are into bodybuilding, and your bicep is pretty good, and you really want to make it better in this way. That could be a humble action if it is not used as exploitation, but sincerity. To ask what I can do to be a better mother is love. The spontaneity of love also comes with thoughts of evaluation.

A lot of people evaluate because they want to play it safe and conform. But the distinction is between doing something as a means to an end and doing something as an end in itself. In humility, your actions tend to be more on that end-in-itself side of the spectrum of motivation because exploitation is always a means to an end.

That is not to say that, if you are running a business, you should not have a vision statement. It is more like an inspiration statement: I am doing this because of this inspiration that I am living in the now.

The actions of spontaneity and love, do they really need thought to come into the field? To what degree is thought necessary? Thought has its place, but thought as ego, thought as self-worth, is not necessary. Thought as needing to be at this appointment today and knowing how to get there has its place. Put thought in its right place and give up all the unhealthy thought.

If you are simply asking how you are going to help your daughter be the best person she can be, that is healthy thought. That is contemplation. Then all the actions of freedom and sincerity and spontaneity and love can merge with that comprehension, that insight, and that faculty of abstraction.

In a way, it is a very personal contemplation. You have to ask: Do I feel the freedom? Do I feel the love? Do I feel the sincerity? Because you know, as a whole, you are it.

Guided Meditation on Humility

Let us stop talking about swimming, get wet, dive into the water, and actually do it.

Meditation is becoming nothing, becoming what you are. It is a direct encounter with essence, formlessness. Bring attention to the heart center, right in the center of the chest. Just notice the baggage. It is self-reflection.

We want to go into such presence that there is no space. It is like we are going through a very thin door. We have to leave everything behind.

Essence. This is the sincerity of the moment.

In meditation, we can bring a positive focus. Instead of saying, stop thinking, bring attention to the energy field. Feel the heart center. Feel its warmth. Invoke an open heart.

Let us attempt to meditate on humility, to become anonymous to ourselves, to let go of all the ways that we are trying to control, simply perceiving them in stillness and letting them go.

I stand vulnerable. That is what we are practicing. Here I am. I am not going to try to be impressive. I am not going to try to be good enough. I am not going to try to be smart. I just am five-year-old Adam.

Just be what you are. That is self-love. Surrender to the destiny of being what you are. This opens the heart.

Become completely anonymous to yourself. Become aware of all your sense of control, identification, and ego, standing vulnerable to destiny as it carries you. Bring attention to the heart. Let the heart expand.

In humility, we accept our lack of humility. We accept ourselves as we are. When we let go in this vulnerable way, we give up grasping and taking, and we move into the field of accepting the benedictions that come of their own accord.

Embrace humility because we know it is the highest state, the highest outcome. Seek to become absorbed in the unknown. Let its waves carry you deeper. Step off the continuum of worthiness. Let yourself be washed deeper and deeper into the unknown, sinking closer and closer to the center.

Selfhood is an illusion. Art is the doorway to being unlocked. Through humility, freedom from self-image.

One can only assert what they are not, never what they are. What we are needs no assertion. You can let everything go.

It is okay to let part of your soul cry out, with perhaps decades of holding on to selfhood rising off of you. Recognize your intrinsic nature as godliness, as unassailable, everlasting being.

When did we all grow up? Let yourself be a child in the privacy of your own meditation, of your own mind. Enjoy the feeling of heart, gentleness, no longer having to fight for what you are not.

Bask in the power of humility, the ground of a true self. This is the key to loving others because we become an overflowing benediction of goodwill, blissfulness.

The essence of all of us is godliness, and the door is humility. It is just a matter of self-forgetfulness.

Spiritual Community and Energetic Development

When we meditate together, we hold a wavelength. This is sangha, or satsanga. Satsanga means association with truth. We come together, and through that association, we hold the wavelength. We expand it.

It is hard to be a solo practitioner in a world of people bent on all the things that are not ultimate truth. We sit down and make it our consecration, our focus.

The transformation happens in the body. If you get your chakras activated, they really do things. It is not make-believe. You meditate on your navel center. You meditate on your third eye. Your consciousness changes.

You do it for ten years, and it is an unrecognizable difference. You did not even know you had that. What is this thing that you are doing that is usually thought of as make-believe? It becomes a very real part of your daily experience.

Humility is a part of energy. A lot of times, you go to an energy class and they tell you to focus on your chakra. But if you are not humble, you can only take it so far. That is why you see these powerful light beings who seem to have this simultaneous integration of an energetic embodiment and the virtues. They are one.

You cannot be really powerful if you are really mean. You can only be powerful in a certain way. You can certainly have social power, but for your power and your body and your heart to radiate, and for you to feel like that music, that power comes from aligning yourself with the ambient power of the universe, the goodness.

You become a hand, a mechanism for good, a part of the mechanism of good. Hands of good.

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Humility and Unconditional Love

Adam Wes I love our weekly gatherings, getting together here to focus on the teachings, to share in the energy, to do energy work, and to have a transformation of our energy field.

Today, I am excited to be talking about humility, which is a surprisingly deep and esoteric topic, a lot more esoteric than I think it usually is taken at face value.

So let's talk about humility and its relationship to energy. The way we are energetically is greatly informed by our thoughts, our paradigm, the way we relate to life, and by our karma, which is our actions and the way those actions inform our experiences.

You know what? I am going to quickly text some people I know want to be here. Let's see. Okay.

So what is humility? Well, let's start with something else. What is it to love oneself?

If you love yourself because of some attribute, some quality, is that love? When we love anything or anyone because of attributes or qualities, is that love? Well, certainly it's conditional, and we're loving because of some sort of benefit. But there's an entirely different orientation, which is to say that that is, in fact, a form of mutual exploitation.

I love so-and-so because I get this from them. I want them to love me, and so I try to get big biceps or whatever it is, get a good job, or wear these cool lion sweatshirts. I don't know. I do that because I want them to love me, and we're entering into a field of mutual exploitation.

Think about that. Our society lives in the field of mutual exploitation. This is the status quo. This is what is expected. This is respectable, and this is what we live in. That is not love.

There is a dimension of form in it. There is collaboration, right? So the flower and the bee, right? The bee comes for the pollen, and the flower gives the pollen, and they mutually benefit each other. But that's collaboration, and that's an expression of complementary intrinsic nature.

So when we act with the spontaneity of the self on behalf of the totality, allowing complementary spiritual natures, that's love. But when we do it as a means of saying, "I'm separate, and I need to get something. I have to fulfill a desire. I'm not in an action on behalf of the totality," that's exploitation.

So how does this connect with humility? Well, if you love yourself for a reason, that's not humility, right? If I am feeling, "Okay, I am worthy," I'm entering into the field of worthiness.

One second, Shawn's here.

If I'm entering into the field of worthiness for a reason, that's not humility. In humility, I have two parts. I have my formless perfection. I'm a child of the universe.

David's here. People are arriving fashionably late. Hi, Shawn. Hi, David.

Shawn E I am evaluating my health benefits right now.

Adam Wes Thank you. I'm evaluating myself based on worthiness, but in humility, we recognize what we are with complete acceptance. Einstein can say, "I'm the best in the world at this," but he's not doing it from a place of ego. He just does it from a place of truth.

You know what? I'd actually like to get up a whole document I wrote on this because I think it'll be a little easier to discuss. Just a second.

All right. Here's the sermon. I actually wrote it out already. Maybe I'll just go through this because it's a little convoluted, and I want to connect everything properly.

To evaluate yourself, to apply self-worth based on some particular attribute, is to enter into the marketplace of mutual exploitation. It is to say that I have something to offer that makes me valuable as a means of exchange for something I want. Implicit in this is that I, too, am exploiting the other and allowing myself to be exploited.

This is essential because, in humility, we're accepting ourselves as we are, entirely. We have to let go of this marketplace of mutual exploitation.

I am as I am. I may be meant to be CEO of this company or not. We see in our intrinsic nature the truth of where we belong, and the collaboration and the integration into life that's natural and correct. In that, we can let go of our sense of self-importance and just recognize the truth of what we are.

Meditation and Sincere Action

Humility comes from meditation because, in meditation, we dissolve into the unknown. We let go of self-reflection.

When we let go of self-reflection, there's a sense of spontaneous action that is humble, like a child who plays. We may be very good at what we do, but we still have the humility of a child who is simply playing, simply enjoying our experiences. In humility, there's a great deal of sincerity.

If you're an artist, an artist will engage in their art, engage in their creativity and their mastery, because they love what they do. But if an artist is doing it for the results, they lose that je ne sais quoi, that quality of beauty that is utter humility.

So there's the aspect of this: I am not engaging in self-reflection. I'm just acting with spontaneity, with love, with humility. This comes from meditation because, in meditation, we actually dissolve. It's not just an intellectual epiphany. We're becoming a feeling of freedom. We're becoming a feeling of being completely absorbed without any element of ego.

Humility brings sincerity. I would love to ask anybody if they have any questions or comments. You're welcome to read some of what I've written here. I'll be putting it up in the private space that we have, the digital ashram.

Maybe I'll read a paragraph here:

"Humility means the direct apprehension of truth. It means accepting the truth and knowing the truth without any level of self-importance, either in the affirmation or the negative.

"Whether you are great or not, humility is a state in which you know what you are without evaluation and judgment. A rose is not better than jasmine. A mango is not better than passion fruit. A man is not better than a woman. The sky is not better than the sea. One sees things as they are. A child who is just learning is not better than an adult.

"And yet humility may recognize the fact that this individual is better suited to be CEO of a company, or that a physicist is the leader in their field in the world at a particular time."

So humility has a lot to do with seeing the fact. You can know yourself as you are, but there's no sense of evaluation because you've moved out of that continuum of mutual exploitation.

Any comments or questions? Does anybody want to say anything?

Joshua R Yeah, I'm just always impressed by your ability to take these complex ideas and simplify them. Humility, at face value, is a simple concept, but it is quite deeper once you start paring it apart, right? What is it composed of? It gets quite deep, and I'm glad you're thinking about it. That's why I decided to come here today. I saw the topic and became even more interested.

Adam Wes I love that. Joshua, by the way, is a really amazing researcher at Harvard. You're researching brain stem cells?

Joshua R No, I study hematological cancers at Dana-Farber Cancer Institute, in the Department of Data Science. I'm a cancer researcher.

Adam Wes Okay, wonderful. Thank you for that wonderful work.

Now let's use Joshua as an example. With his sincerity, and let's just assume the best here, he's doing his work with humility, which would mean he loves doing what he does, right? In humility, you just love doing what you do. You're a duck in a happy pond. You're where you're meant to be, right? For him, that's cancer research. For Jacob, that's physics equations. For David, that's starting a new business in engineering and education.

In humility, how can we have the freedom inwardly to enjoy our lives on a day-to-day basis with that blessing of humility, like a child, and get rid of all of those layers of sedimentation that make us feel so ensnared in the social aspect?

There are many dimensions to this. One, we have to have a lot of trust that we're enough, that being true to ourselves and doing what we love is the right thing, and it's enough to sustain us, to realize our heart's wishes and our heart's dreams.

There's a lot here. We may think, "Okay, that's a nice thought, but how can you feel that?" Well, when we meditate and make contact with the light, the light of consciousness, which we're going to do today, that light is the formlessness, the essence of consciousness. It is the part of us that is beyond form.

It's like a beautiful golden statue. If we evaluate that statue based on its form, sure, somebody made this look beautiful in gold, but the gold is valuable. The light is the gold from which we arise. It's the substance of what we are.

By spending time with our essence, we naturally become more humble. It awakens intelligence. It's a great way to get good at math. It's a great way to make people feel at ease because, when you're humble, you're holding space for others to be themselves. People feel that.

This is a greatly interdimensional concept. I recommend spending the week writing about this. I'll put the document out. You can read it, contemplate it, and add to it. You can watch the 1982 Gandhi movie, right? Do things that make the theme of the week humility. If you watch that movie, you'll say, "Wow, that's a humble guy," right? Gandhi just seems to be pretty humble to me.

It's a very important aspect of life, especially in a world where we are so bombarded. If you encounter somebody who lacks humility, there's a gravity that pulls you off your humility center because you're almost like, "Okay, do I need to respond to this? Do I need to be worthy?" You feel them maybe pushing you down and imposing upon you: "You're not worthy just because you're a child of God. You're not worthy just because you are as you are."

Is a second grader any less wonderful? You saw this beautiful girl, Kara's daughter. She's this wonderful girl. Is she any less wonderful than Joshua because she doesn't have a graduate degree? No, of course not. That would be ridiculous. Or is Joshua any less wonderful than her because he's not seven? That's ridiculous. I think she's five, actually.

Recognizing that a rose is a rose, jasmine is jasmine, and a mango and a passion fruit are all unique, look at us. We are a collage of wildflowers arising from the substratum of formlessness, right? These recognitions are all involved in humility.

Thank you, Colin. An absence of ego. Yeah, to put it succinctly, this is an absence of ego, right?

What does that mean? It means to walk around without the baggage of self-reflection. It's baggage. It's a burden. Constantly trying to be polite, or lead with whatever is normal or good enough, or keeping checks on whether you're being evaluated by everybody else. Don't be yourself!

Did Michael Jackson be himself? I think he was being himself. Great artists do this. Innocent children do this.

Anybody else want to say something?

Selflessness and the Created Self

Joshua R I think this concept, taken to its extreme, converges to uniformity, right? It becomes this concept of selflessness, of the universe experiencing itself. We are all the universe experiencing itself, right? We are atoms observing atoms and experiencing thermodynamics at some level, right?

Adam Wes I got it.

Joshua R I love the metaphor. To me, I think that's the limit of what you're saying. I always listen when you speak, Adam.

Adam Wes Aw, thank you.

Joshua R The limit to what you're saying is this form of selflessness. This uniformity is the limit of a universal level of selflessness, right? We are all the universe experiencing itself.

Adam Wes There's an ontological, a philosophy-of-being undertone there, which is that each thing is brought into existence unto its own value.

Every moment is complete. This is perfect as it is. It experiences itself as it is. Things are as they are. There's no need for the ego. There's no need for self-reflection. There's no need for evaluation. That's where I get back to this whole marketplace of mutual exploitation.

Evaluation happens there because I say, "I want so-and-so to like me." Let's say, on romantic levels, where it's really egregious, "I want so-and-so to like me, so I'm going to get big biceps because she likes big biceps."

All of this is so corrupt, right? Don't we want people to love us for who we are? And is love not a subjective capacity? If I love somebody because of something, that's just exploitation. But if I love all unconditionally because I am love, that is a whole new field.

That doesn't mean I'm going to hire just anybody for my business because not everybody is qualified, but that has nothing to do with loving them, right? It doesn't mean that I'm going to get hired to be the top gardener. I don't know enough about gardening.

Hi, Mandy!

Mandy W Oops, can you hear me?

Adam Wes Thanks for asking the question. Yeah, I can hear you.

Mandy W First, I like the etymology I found of humility, which is "low," or "lowly," as if you're low on the ground, low to the earth. It means lowliness or humble, which derives from humus, H-U-M-U-S, earth.

Adam Wes Oh, wow!

Mandy W What I wanted to say, when you were talking about egolessness, is that I think it's a both-and thing. In order to be in the world, we have to have a personified self, you know?

Adam Wes In yoga, they call that an ahamkara. You have to have the created self.

Mandy W Right. A lot of people call that ego. And we can also be humble and not bigger than our heads, so to speak.

Adam Wes Yeah, and this is where it gets a little sticky, right? We need to make the distinction here. If you don't have any sense of orientation in the universe, that's insanity. You have to have a paradigm. You have to know how to orient in the universe.

But where evaluation and worthiness come in, I guess the reason I start with, "What does it mean to love yourself?" is because there's so much confusion around that. You hear people say, "Love yourself, love yourself."

Well, love yourself. Why? Why should I love myself? "Because I'm this good, and this good, and this good, and I have this quality." No, love yourself unconditionally. That's a different thing, right?

People are trying to balance the judgment of themselves with, "But I have these good qualities." To enter into that unconditional state and know yourself as you are is a different thing. Self-love really fuses with the love of the other when one stops evaluating worthiness.

It's interesting because even the word humility is a little bit tainted with what I think humility does not mean. It means earth. Thank you for that, Mandy. I didn't know that, actually. It means earth because it means to be low, not high above everybody else. But really, humility means that everybody is what they are.

Know what you are. Be what you are. That should be enough.

Colleen May I just say, Michael Jackson, I don't think he loved who he was because he changed to be somebody else so people would like him. If he had just stayed as who he was.

Adam Wes Do you know that he did that to have people like him? I don't think that's why he did his plastic surgery.

Colleen You don't think so?

Adam Wes No. I think he did it for the same reason girls dress dolls. I think he liked what it looked like. He did have a skin condition, and he had lots of money. I think he really liked what it looked like. I don't think he really cared what people thought.

If I take that in isolation, maybe, but if you look at him as a whole, I see an artist who's free. Yeah, he's got a little bit of tainted views about body image, a little bit of body dysmorphia going on, but I don't see that as the essence of his energy.

I don't think he cared if people liked him. One time, he said that he eventually finally read the tabloids and saw that everybody thought he was really weird, and he had no idea because he wasn't even thinking about that. I think he was very sincere about his music.

We had a talk a few weeks ago about dharma. Dharma, mastery, your art. In dharma, we enter into humility.

Mom, I don't know. Maybe you're right. I don't know for sure. That's just my sense of it. Is that the truth? I didn't know him. Maybe you're right. That's a good question.

Colleen Well, I hope you're right, because I hope he did like himself and just wanted to be who he wanted to be.

Adam Wes I love that. The kindest person in the world right here you're talking to, this is my mom. Surely she's the kindest person.

Dharma and Standards of Conduct

So, dharma. If you find something you love to do, whatever that is, something that you continually challenge yourself in, right? Say you're a writer and you just want to get better and better. You're like, "Oh, I'm getting Emersonian-level right here," right?

Emerson is this really fantastic writer, and when you read his writing, you're like, "Oh my God, how did he do that?" It's really amazing stuff. Or Shakespeare, or whomever. Not as a comparison, but as an inspiration for how you can be your true expression of yourself at the highest levels.

Constantly challenging yourself, that autotelic activity, that activity that is autotelic, meaning you do it for its own sake, is a way of practicing humility.

Meditation is a way of practicing humility because, in meditation, I become nothing. This is another aspect of humility: to become nothing. Dare I say it, to have no self-worth.

Give up the burden. You don't need self-worth. You are what you are. You are infinitely valuable. You are as valuable as anybody else, right?

Give up the burden of self-worth. This is a very spiritual thing, to say, "I know that I have no worth, that I will come and go. My life in this form is finite. These are my experiences. They are sacred because they are my experiences. It doesn't matter about anybody else."

I can love another. I can help another. I can do what Colleen just said, wish the best for another, help them enter freedom, help them enter humility because of compassion and empathy and love. But I can stand in freedom from all of that trap of selfhood. It's a trap.

Just say, "I have no self-worth." You can see some of those hairy spiritual people bowing down to the flower, to the tree, to everybody they encounter. Not because they're saying, "I'm lower." They're just off the spectrum of that evaluation.

We're about 30 minutes in, so we should probably stop soon. But does anybody want to add anything? How about you, Kara? So happy to see Kara here! Yay, Kara!

Kara M Hi.

Adam Wes Hi!

Kara M The self-love thing is something that I have struggled with as a concept for a very long time. Not necessarily in the sense that I struggle with it particularly for myself, but trying to understand what the need is for it, really. Why it matters.

Adam Wes Because you have a lot of love for yourself, I think it just doesn't make sense to you. Am I right?

Kara M Maybe so. I'm really good at loving other people, and motherhood has definitely put that into a different context in a way that's been really wonderful.

But I do think that part of where that struggle comes from is the desire to have standards for one's own behavior. To remove valuation entirely opens up the ability not to have standards for behavior. I think that's where that difficulty has always come from for me.

I aspire to have high standards for my own behavior, not just in an ethical, moral sense, but also in a sense of wanting to do good and be a good wife, be a good mom, be a good friend, all those things. When you pull out valuation, you can remove ego, but I personally still have a very strong instinct toward some level of valuing behavior and states of being.

Adam Wes It's interesting because a lot of these things are so ineffable. Things are so close to each other, right? We may be talking about different things while we think we're talking about the same thing.

What is evaluation? It's different to be in absolute humility but recognize, "Okay, well, I could be better in this way," as part of a sincere, humble effort. Maybe you are into bodybuilding, and you're like, "Okay, my bicep is pretty good, and I really want to make it better in this way." That could be a humble action if it's not used as exploitation, but sincerity.

Everything I'm hearing you say is sincere, right? You just want to know, "What can I do to be a better mother?" That's love. The spontaneity of love also comes with thoughts of evaluation.

But then I also heard something else there, which I don't think is necessarily what you were talking about, although it brought it up for me. I think a lot of people evaluate because they want to play it safe and conform. I'm not sure if maybe you were saying that.

Kara M No. I think it gets back to the differentiation between doing something as a means to an end and doing something as an end in itself. In humility, your actions tend to be more on that end-in-itself side of the spectrum of motivation, because the exploitation concept, for me, is always very means-to-an-end.

Adam Wes Right. That's not to say that, if you're running a business, you shouldn't have a vision statement. It doesn't mean that's your direction. That's in the now, right? It's more like an inspiration statement: "I'm doing this because of this inspiration that I'm living in the now."

I like how David just perked up. He's like, "Yeah," because he's such an entrepreneur. That's his dharma.

You can see the intricacy here, right? It's important to know it, not just intellectually, but to live it.

If I might say just one more thing, the actions of spontaneity, of love, do they really need thought to come into the field? To what degree is thought necessary?

Thought has its place, but thought as ego, thought as self-worth, that's not necessary. Thought as, "I need to be at this appointment today, and I need to know how to get there," has its place. Put thought in its right place and give up all the unhealthy thought.

If you're simply like, "Okay, how am I going to help my daughter be the best person she can be?" that's healthy thought. That's contemplation, right? Then all the actions of freedom and sincerity and spontaneity and love can merge with that comprehension, that insight, and that faculty of abstraction.

I don't know if that resonates with you, Kara.

Kara M No, it definitely does. As you were talking about those things, those were the directions my brain took.

Adam Wes In a way, it's a very personal contemplation, right? You have to find a way to ask, "Do I feel the freedom? Do I feel the love? Do I feel the sincerity?" Because you know, as a whole, you are it.

Oh, we lost Joshua. He had to go. Nice. Thanks, PK.

Guided Meditation on Humility

So let's do our meditation. I need to maybe plug my computer in. The music is ready.

David P Adam?

Adam Wes Yeah?

David P Last time, I know the audio was perhaps too loud. I could not hear your voice.

Adam Wes Oh, right. Put it down a bit. Thank you for reminding me.

David P The microphone or something?

Adam Wes Yeah, it was just because, when the music is too loud on Spotify, it doesn't calculate the sound waves quite right. They need to work on that.

All right. Hopefully I won't run out of batteries. I think I have enough.

Can everybody hear the music? Okay.

Let's stop talking about swimming, get wet, dive into the water, and actually do it.

Sepanta M Sorry, Adam. I cannot hear the music. I don't know about the others.

Jacob I cannot hear it.

Kara M No.

Adam Wes You cannot listen to it, or you cannot hear it?

Shawn E Cannot hear it.

Adam Wes Oh, okay. Thank you. I thought Sepanta was saying, "I'm not going to listen to your music."

Sepanta M Oh, no. Sorry.

Adam Wes "I cannot listen to this music while I meditate." Okay, can you hear it now? All right.

Like I was saying, let's stop talking about swimming, get wet, dive into the water, and actually do it.

Meditation is becoming nothing, becoming what you are. It's a direct encounter with essence, formlessness.

Is my voice coming through fine? All right.

Let's bring attention to the heart center, right in the center of the chest. Just notice the baggage. It's self-reflection.

We want to go into such presence that there's no space. It's like we're going through a very thin door. We have to leave everything behind.

Essence. This is the sincerity of the moment.

In meditation, we can bring a positive focus. Instead of saying, "Stop thinking," bring attention to the energy field.

Feel the heart center. Feel its warmth. Invoke an open heart.

Let's attempt to meditate on humility, to become anonymous to ourselves, to let go of all the ways that we are trying to control, simply perceiving them in stillness and letting them go.

I stand vulnerable. That's what we are practicing.

So here I am, sitting before all of you. I'm not going to try to be impressive. I'm not going to try to be good enough. I'm not going to try to be smart. I just am five-year-old Adam.

You guys can do that too. Just be what you are. That's self-love.

Surrender to the destiny of being what you are. This opens the heart.

Kira just arrived. Kira, we're meditating on humility, becoming completely anonymous to ourselves, becoming aware of all our sense of control, identification, and ego, standing vulnerable to destiny as it carries us.

Bring attention to the heart. Let the heart expand.

In humility, we accept our lack of humility. We accept ourselves as we are.

When we let go in this vulnerable way, we give up grasping and taking, and we move into the field of accepting the benedictions that come of their own accord.

Embrace humility because we know it is the highest state, the highest outcome.

With this song, let's really seek to become absorbed in the unknown. Let its waves carry you deeper.

Step off the continuum of worthiness. With each wave of the music, let yourself be washed deeper and deeper into the unknown, sinking closer and closer to the center.

Selfhood is an illusion.

Art is the doorway to being unlocked. Through humility, freedom from self-image.

One can only assert what they are not, never what they are. What we are needs no assertion.

You can let everything go.

It's okay to let part of your soul cry out, with perhaps decades of holding on to selfhood rising off of you.

Recognize your intrinsic nature as godliness, as unassailable, everlasting being.

When did we all grow up? Let yourself be a child in the privacy of your own meditation, of your own mind.

This will be our last song. Just for a few minutes, really enjoy the feeling of heart, gentleness, no longer having to fight for what you are not.

Bask in the power of humility, the ground of a true self.

This is the key to loving others because we become an overflowing benediction of goodwill, blissfulness.

The essence of all of us is godliness, and the door is humility. Just remember that.

It's just a matter of self-forgetfulness.

We are so good.

Oh, that was lovely. I hope you guys had a good meditation. I had a good one.

Wonderful. Mama, would you like to share?

Reflections on the Meditation

Colleen I went into, oh gosh, I guess I needed that. I'm sure my head was bobbing a lot. I did see some colors, but then I just saw people.

Adam Wes People. Interesting.

When she says, "I just saw colors," what she means is she entered into the causal planes of reality beyond the astral and saw the essence of consciousness. She sees them as actual, perceivable color.

Wonderful. But then you saw people, which is really interesting.

Colleen I was dreaming about people, so I don't know where I was at that stage, but I feel nice and relaxed. Thank you so much.

Adam Wes Wonderful. What colors did you see?

Colleen Red and green.

Adam Wes Red and green, okay. Love and love, two kinds of love. The red heart and the green center.

Colleen Thank you.

Adam Wes Have a nice day, Mom.

How about you, Kira?

Kira Hi. It's nice to see you all. I don't have anything to share at the moment.

Adam Wes Okay, thank you. Would anybody like to share? How about Ariella? We'll be done in a couple of minutes.

Ariella It was very, very relaxing and expansive. Thank you so much, Adam.

Adam Wes Thank you for being here and holding the wavelength with all of us. You hold it powerfully.

Ariella Oh, thank you. This is good. I just love it. Thank you, thank you.

Adam Wes How about you, Shawn? Shawn has been with me on a ten-week journey. This is week ten of our summer cohort. Can you believe it? He's been a very diligent student. Amazing. I love it.

Would you like to share anything? You don't have to.

Shawn E I don't think I have anything to share.

Adam Wes Okay. Would anybody like to share?

I want to congratulate Mandy for making it through the whole thing. Mandy usually drops off partway through because she's so sensitive to energy, which is a really wonderful quality. But I'm glad she made it through. It's good that you're here.

Well, I think we should have at least one more person share. Kara?

Kira I can share something. It was interesting because we were using that big, grand music at one point. Usually in the meditations, I'll identify with that grand sound, and I'll use it to expand and enlarge and become everything.

Interestingly, this time, it was right after you were talking about something along the lines of surrendering. I was getting a feeling of surrender and letting destiny carry you naturally. Those weren't the exact words, but something like that.

This time, instead of going with the musical grandness, I actually let destiny be the grandness, and I was small and just humble to it. That was a different viewpoint.

Adam Wes I felt that with that part of the music. I felt something similar, although, from one perspective, you're small. From another perspective, you're impersonal. You're everything.

God is great. I am part and parcel of God.

Kira Could you share a little bit more? You said something interesting about humility being the entryway to God or a divine experience. I would love to hear you share a little bit more because I wasn't here for the in-depth part. If everybody else already knows, we can talk later.

Adam Wes Really, really briefly, humility is shedding the sense of self that obscures the impersonal essence, the essence of self, the godliness, the self that we are when we are unburdened by the imposition of egoic identifications, images, and agendas.

I will share the whole document. I wrote a whole thing on it.

Thank you, Kira. Namaste.

How about Kara?

Kara M I just want to say how much I enjoy meditating with other people. I meditate most days alone, and it's nice to have a little sense of amplification that comes with other people being involved. So thank you all.

Spiritual Community and Energetic Development

Adam Wes I love that. I feel that too. It's like we hold a wavelength. This is sangha, or satsanga.

The last thing I'll say is that satsanga means association with truth. We come together, and through that association, we hold the wavelength. We expand it.

It's hard to be a solo practitioner in a world of people bent on all the things that are not ultimate truth, right? We sit down and make it our consecration, our focus, for an hour a week.

I invite everybody, please come again. We do this every Tuesday at 6:00 p.m. Pacific time, the same time. I've been doing this for many years now, actually. I don't usually say this at the end. Maybe that's why we haven't grown, but come again! It'll be next week.

The recommended donation is $3 to $33, so it's totally accessible to probably most people in the world. You don't have to donate, but if you do, it's a nice energy balance. It's also a nice subconscious anchor, like, "Okay, I've invested in this," and then it kind of comes back in. Even if you just want to do $3, it has that energy opportunity for you. It also supports my work.

Ultimately, I'd love to spend $1,000 a week advertising this on Meta, and then we could grow and spread the light, spread the love, spread the humility. My goal is to get to a point where I can really reinvest.

I just feel funny not hearing David talk. David, can you just say something? David has also been with me for ten weeks. He's super sincere, absolutely amazing. I think he literally even translated the whole playlist.

David P To Apple Music.

Adam Wes Did you literally search every one today? Thank you for that. That's amazing.

David P Yeah.

Adam Wes That's available in our space. David made that available. So, David, if you want to share anything, then we'll let everybody go to dinner, or to bed, or whatever it is you do at this time.

David P Yeah, three things. The first one, the most important one, I love the shirt. I really enjoyed it.

The second one, it's really good to see more people here. I really enjoyed seeing Kara again. Kara, you have great energy. It's nice seeing you again. Sepanta, you too, great energy. Shawn, I know you already, so you're great, man.

The third one is that, after this tenth week of doing these meditations, I am now feeling more and more. I'm managing the kundalini energy. I'm experiencing different things. This time it was with my hands, and I had this feeling in my head.

This is very new for me, but I know that it's making me healthier and stronger. I can feel it.

Adam Wes I love it.

David P So you're going to see me next Tuesday, and the next one.

Adam Wes Good, good. I love it, David. You want to start moving the energy. The transformation happens in the body.

If you get your chakras activated, they really do things. It's not make-believe. You meditate on your navel center. You meditate on your third eye. Your consciousness changes.

You do it for ten years, and it's an unrecognizable difference. It's like, "Whoa, I didn't even know I had that. Am I human anymore? What is this thing that I'm doing that's usually thought of as make-believe?" It becomes a very real part of your daily experience.

Today we did humility, and David, what you might have noticed is that humility is a part of energy. A lot of times, you go to an energy class and they're like, "Focus on your chakra." But if you're not humble, you can only take it so far.

That's why you see these powerful light beings, or maybe you've heard of them, who seem to have this simultaneous integration of an energetic embodiment and the virtues. You're like, "Wow," because they're one.

David P Hmm.

Adam Wes You cannot be really powerful if you're really mean. You can only be powerful in a certain way. You can certainly have social power, but for your power and your body and your heart to radiate, and for you to feel like that music, that power comes from aligning yourself with the ambient power of the universe, the goodness.

You become a hand, a mechanism for good, a part of the mechanism of good. Hands of good.

Thank you, David. Namaste.

Thank you, everybody. Thanks for staying a little longer. Maybe one request for next week: if you could try to be on time. I know everybody has their things going on, but if you can, we would speak to the universe with a slightly different energy. We would say, "Universe, we are impeccable."

I'm doing my best, so I invite you to do that. But please do not stay away if you're late. It's okay. We'd rather see your face.

Namaste. Woo! Humility! Spread it! Share it! Spread it!

All right, nice to see everybody. Thanks, Ariella. Bye, David.

Ariella liked the shirt. Cool.

Lion of the goddess.

Study Guide

The lesson explored humility as knowing and accepting what one is without evaluation, self-importance, or judgment. It connected unconditional love, meditation, sincere action, self-forgetfulness, spiritual community, and alignment with the goodness of the universe.

Theme of the Lesson

Humility is the direct apprehension of truth, accepting what one is without evaluation or self-importance, and allowing love and sincere action to arise without the burden of self-reflection.

Key Points
  • Humility means knowing what one is without evaluation, judgment, or self-importance.
  • Conditional love based on attributes belongs to a marketplace of mutual exploitation.
  • Unconditional self-love does not depend on worthiness, qualities, achievements, or comparison.
  • Humility recognizes differences in ability and suitability without placing beings on a spectrum of value.
  • Meditation dissolves self-reflection and brings direct contact with essence and formlessness.
  • When self-reflection falls away, sincere and spontaneous action can arise, like a child simply playing.
  • The created self remains necessary for orientation, but egoic identification and evaluation are not necessary.
  • Autotelic activity, doing something for its own sake, is a way of practicing humility.
  • Thought has its place in practical orientation and loving contemplation, but thought as ego or self-worth is unhealthy.
  • Humility includes accepting oneself as one is, including accepting one’s lack of humility.
  • Satsanga is association with truth, where the community comes together and holds the wavelength.
  • Energetic embodiment and virtue are one. Radiant power comes from alignment with the goodness of the universe.
Assignment

Enter meditation with attention at the heart, notice the baggage of self-reflection, and let go of the effort to be impressive, worthy, smart, or good enough. Become anonymous to yourself, stand vulnerable, and surrender to being what you are.

Actionable Focus for the Week
  • Awareness of moments when worthiness, comparison, or evaluation enters.
  • Attention to the heart center, its warmth, and the feeling of an open heart.
  • Time in meditation with essence, stillness, and the unknown.
  • Activities done for their own sake, with sincerity and love.
  • The difference between practical thought and thought rooted in ego or self-worth.
  • Holding space for others to be themselves.
  • Association with truth through sangha and shared practice.
Optional Reflection Prompts
  • Where do I feel the burden of self-reflection?
  • What is it like to step off the continuum of worthiness?
  • Do I feel freedom, love, and sincerity in what I am doing?
Quotations
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